I’m angry, yet calm. A state that anyone knows me will know is the more dangerous of my anger states, that’s when I can think clearly enough to hurt those around me yet care little enough to actually do it. So I’m trying to control that anger and wait till it dissipates before I decide on a course of action.
I, along with others, have had run ins over the past few days with someone on here. Unlike this person I will not stoop to the level of mentioning their name or linking to their site but rather than writing it on their page I’m going to have to put these thoughts somewhere before I burst….or just think ‘Screw it’ and do it.
So without further ado I present to you a ranting monologue….
You have hurt those people on WordPress that I have come to care about, those who are vulnerable to exposure, vulnerable to people bullying them and those who deserve better. You do not listen, you hear what you want to hear and nothing more, you have no patience for conversations with those who do not agree with your view point and in your replies you make this obvious. I saw this and decided that I would not rise to your ‘challenge’ I would be the adult I am and simply be disappointed with you, avoid you and leave it at that.
However, I went back to see if you had replied to my final comment and saw that you are continuing your assault upon one of these people. You continue to speak about her, post yet more links in your conversations as if asking your followers to go and attack. Worst still you speak of where she lives in a post where you are obviously trying to gain support against her for the slight you perceived against you.
In your answer to my request for you to think again about having all those links on your page you stated that you don’t care about my feeling in this matter. For a Psychology trained therapist I find this slightly baffling. You don’t care how I feel? You don’t care how those you have hurt with that post feel? This was the alarm bell that made me realise there was no hope in you listening to reason. Even those who you have replied to in a more civil manner have been told that you will not be listening to their sensible suggestions to take this down and simply post about therapists, research etc.
You view this ‘battle’ as censorship in its worst form, those of us who have felt the pain caused by it do not. I see it quite simply as people asking for you to be sensitive to their needs. You asked me why they feel the need to hide, can you really not understand? With all your studying and all your therapeutic training you can not understand that people will not want to be exposed in this way? That it could be detrimental to their mental health to have you attack them or one of their friends in a place where they had felt relatively safe?
I never had a problem with your beliefs, those are your opinions and you can keep speak freely about it as far as I’m concerned, though I do hope it never harms anyone in your ‘care’. After reading through some of your posts and your bio I understand your anger and why you feel the need to make it public, but why can you not respect the fact that others who have been diagnosed with this condition could really have it and need to be able to know they are not thought of as liars? Need to know they will not be attacked whether directly or indirectly through this blog medium.
Quite honestly I’m disgusted with your behaviour in this matter. What is clear seems to be that in your dealings with others on here as soon as they show the slightest disagreement with you, you become overly defensive, aggressive, vindictive and generally unstable attacking where it is completely unnecessary. If you saw these traits in a patient what would your reaction be I wonder? Would you explain to them that these knee jerk reactions are drawn from fear and try to help them to figure out why? What thoughts would they say go through their mind? what core beliefs would you need to challenge in order to help them?
I truly hope I never have to have dealings with you ever again, that you remove all of the attacks against my friend without having wordpress interfere, as even though you assume she has lodged a complaint, until that final post she had not and was willing to as I was…just put it behind her, ignore you and your page.
I’m assuming they are not following my posts after our little discussion. If I am wrong and you do read this….don’t bother with a retaliation, there is no point. I have been very careful not to mention your name, put any links to your blog or even say whether you are male or female out of respect to you. I will expect the same respect from you even if you do feel the need to speak about this on your page.
Ah ranting on wordpress really does help….I don’t think all of that would have fit into a message on a post. Vile spewing bile has been spouted and now I can breathe.