Children, I’ve worked with them for as long as I can remember. I’ve loved working with them and I believe any child has the potential to become an amazing adult if they are nurtured, lead and given the opportunity to do so.
We live in a time and I’m in a country where child mortality is lower than it’s ever been, every child has the right to an education that could lead them anywhere they want to go.
So what is happening? The little darlings are becoming rude, they have no respect for themselves or others and there is no way to get them to listen. Here’s where I start to sound like a grumpy old woman (get used to it if you’re new here it tends to happen) but I would never have dared talk back to an adult when I was a kid!
The attitude that says ‘you can’t tell me off you have no right’ is beginning earlier and earlier. No longer is it reserved for teenagers whose hormones are running wild, it now starts as young as 4 years old at least around my estate. When I was younger if I had tried to argue back at an adult or been caught doing something wrong, I would have been frog marched to my house probably by the ear and handed over to my parents who would have scolded me and dealt out some form of punishment no matter who it was that did the marching. They would have been angry that I had shamed them, angry that I had not behaved myself and disappointed in me (the worst part of it usually to me).
They swear at each other and anyone walking past them, they run riot in the street, they don’t know how to play in any way other than to fight or play football (or both together). If you confront them they mouth back at you, they show no shame in their behaviour, they don’t think anyone has the right the discipline them.
It’s getting worse with every generation, with every year that passes the children who behave this way get younger and younger.
As for the parents of these children, well in some cases I know they try their best to raise them properly but unfortunately as soon as they start school or begin playing with the others their age and older any of their good work is undone. The parents who do not try are ruining it for everyone!
I can pin point those parents on my street simply and easily by watching their children and seeing them, hearing them outside. They swear and scream and leave their children to run around on their own with no supervision as soon as they can walk. They spend more time getting stoned, drunk, watching Jeremy Kyle or just deciding not to look after their children than they do being parents.
I’m disappointed to be living in a time where this happens and I’m more than annoyed at these people who have chosen to procreate and then ruin these young people for all time by behaving like spoilt brats themselves.
What will it take for them to realise that they need to grow up and to behave like a parent should? Will they only realise that they have not done the right things for their children when they are big enough to fight back against them and those parents can no longer just shout at them or lock them in their room? Will it take their child being locked away for the behaviour that is endemic in this country for them to know what they are creating?
I have said since I was in my late teens that there should be a test for people to pass before they can become a parent. I’m not saying they need to be a rocket scientist but just to have the moral compass that they need to pass onto their children. They need enough intelligence to know that they have to raise their children in a way that means they know right from wrong, they know that there are people who can, nay should tell them off when they do something wrong and that those people include every adult that sees them doing it. I may suffer with anxiety but I am still one of those people who is willing to challenge a child on their behaviour, if the parents want to argue with me about it they can go ahead because I will not back down on this stance.
Do you remember the phrase ‘It takes a village to raise a child’? Well where has that belief disappeared to? Is it because our villages are now cities? Is it because our villages are now filled with people we don’t trust?
Whatever the reason is, we need to go back in time and remember that, remember that no one person brings a child through to adult hood and we must all work together in order to make sure they come through it to become a person we are proud to have raised.